"But if one makes a extremly stiff blade it has no give and will tear down the whole tower. On the other hand if you make them A little bit ( or my case extermly) weaker, the blades should bend and relive some of the stress on the tower before it fails, It would seem nobody want's there system to crash and burn. I would rather my blades break in flight than the whole tower failing."
I would think that is basically wrong!
Kinda like saying if I punch holes in my tires now I don't have to worry later about getting flats.
If you build the tower correctly and use a working furling system to turn out of major storm winds, or some type of braking system or shut down the genny in major storms, etc... the tower should never come down. It only comes down if you don't build it correct to beging with.
If you snap off a blade your going to be out of balance, figuring the blade will snap in the hardest of winds, not lowest, you are going to severly stress the tower as the genny tries to bounce around every which way with only 5 blades instead of the 6 it should have. Break off 2 in a row, more problems!
If you check out the site, I don't recall any tower failures because blades were stiff, the posted failures were like not securing turn buckles and they worked loose unscrewing themselfs. Weak blades don't help that. And once a genny I think broke a blade and bounced right off the tower, was supported only by the power leads I think, but tower was fine.
Other things like placing the saddle onthe wrong end of the guy wire and the cable sliped and let tower fall I think.
There are some tower failures, but I don't think any involved stiff non-flexing blades.