Marc,
We've used a couple of 12VDC heat/motion sensors made by RAB. I believe the procduct name is "Stealth". There very high quility as these things go. We have used one on the garage for a number of years to activate lights and energize the OH door operators when someone pulls in the yard. Backwoods Solar is one source that carries them (I have no affiliation, and I'm sure there are others) - just one supplier that we've used. We've also used simple, mechanical spring-wound timers, and switchable light/appliance strips in some cases.
I agree with Volvo farmer that it's best to instill the right habits. Personnally, I hate having the inverter run for small loads that can be handled other ways. Phantom loads can be significant now a days, and off-grid a kWh or (amp-hr) saved is an kWh earned. Good luck.
-kitestrings