Some of this is guesswork but here goes.
The main 3 phase is internally connected to the rectifier and the dc comes out the + & - terminals.
Field is that pair of leads at the bottom connected to the thick horizontal bar ( bar is field winding, vertical bars are main windings).
The pair of leads above that with the circle over one phase wire is a current transformer for current feedback (which car alternators don't have, they are reactance limited)
I have no real idea why 3 phase goes to the regulator unless it is for a phase reference if phased controlled or just the same as the auxiliary diodes on a car alternator to prevent field current when stationary ( seems most likely).
I can't be sure where the voltage sensing is taken from, it could be rectified in the regulator from the 3 phase, it could be taken from the top 2 supply leads.
My instinctive guess is that connection C is the sensing volts and it is referenced to D battery ground. If I am right then you can use the existing regulator, you fool it by feeding C at a potential that is a fraction below battery volts via a potentiometer. One end at ground one end at battery volts and the slider to C.
This sensing could easily be taken from point A so that it doesn't drain battery when alternator is switched off.
You will need to prove that C is the external battery sense and if so it is easy.
Failing this you could use the xantrex regulator as the field is not committed once you remove the internal regulator so you can connect it to suit the xantrex.
You have a problem in that you can't use current sensing and you may have to restrict engine speed or power to keep current within limits unless the xantrex has volt drop current sensing ( I don't want to get that involved).
Assuming that connection C is what I think it is then you have an easy solution.
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