from what i'm reading, it seems you want to get into a system that is fairly robust, and works, but isn't huge. sounds like you'd be willing to run the washer only when the sun is shining ect.
batteries are the anchor. look for flooded lead acid. trojan's are great, though kinda spendy. the t-105's are a great start. look, but don't buy on ebay, you can usually use the shipped cost of an ebay ad to get the dealer to match the price in town. bring as many old car batteries with you as you can scrounge. the dealer will either give you scrap per pound, or negate the core charges on your new batteries.
system voltage is the next thing. 12v is fine for smaller systems, but the amps add up quickly! familiarize yourself with watts=voltsXamps!! i like 24v systems for medium sized stuff. half the amps of a 12v system. many larger systems are 48v, and not a bad route either. 1/4 the amps of a 12v system.
sunelec.com has some really good panel pricing, but terrible customer service.
as far as inverters and charge controllers, look for brands like morningstar, xantrex, outback, and my new personal favorite for MPPT solar controllers is rouge power tech. they're made in oregon in an offgrid manufacturing spot and the price is right.
and lastly read, read, read. here and other spots. sounds like you're getting ready to plunk down 5-10k on "stuff" (yes, this "stuff" is expensive) do it right the first time!!!
adam