"that the spike from the relay dropping out could damage it as time goes by"
Usually it happens fast, but not always.
When it does happen, it happens FAST, as in instantly.
Do it now, or it'll maybe be too late.
Some small relays have them built into the housing.
"I think" they usually have the coil marked with polarity.
(often you can see a tiny diode connected over the coil through a clear housing)
The flyback Schottky does not need to be rated as much as the coil amps.
Usually a 5817 is good for a decent sized 12V coil, and a 5819 is good for a 24V coil.
For people using "solenoids", things change fast.
Faster if they call the thing a 'charge controller'.
Also... might check your spare parts box?
Seems like I sent you something suitable, but maybe it had "metric" part numbers on it, and short bent leads?
G-