I generally think of 10m to 30m turbines as being quite large. Probably one of the most popular US made turbines is the Bergey Excel. They have a 10 kW, 7m unit that has been around for years, and more recently they have a 15 kW, 9.6m unit. The larger is only available in grid-tie, the 10 kW can be had for off-grid (48V). Last I knew these units were selling at $39k and $49 respectively, without towers or install.
Your points on tower height is spot relevant. Far too often turbines are poorly sited and on a tower that should be taller.
I read with interest your report considering a turbine for heating. With a grid-tied system - here in VT one can store credits for up to 12-mos. - I think heating, using a heat pump, makes sense. The overall COP runs about 2.5 (much better than resistance, but not as high as the 4 that you describe for your climate) here in our local. I have an area friend who has the 10 kW unit and he pretty much runs his house, and maple sugaring operation with the stored credits (via net metering).
For off-grid, generally I don't think heating using a heat pump works too well. There are some 48V "mini split" systems, but too often the load and available resource just doesn't match well. Instead, I think pulsing (PWM) available energy, or "opportunity load" to a resistance heat device makes more sense. This works well with hydronic heating as you can thermally store this energy.
I was recently involved with an electric boiler project at a local ski area. It is a multi-staged resistance boiler; pretty simple really. It is supplemental to the heating system, but it operates with a sophisticated software system that manages it around real-time marginal costs and avoiding utility peaks, thus keeping the costs competitive relative to the LPG alternative. It is a 3 MW system, so fairly significant.
With our modest wind/PV system, we do a similar thing though, which is to preheat dhw whenever there is surplus PV or wind. Our charge controllers allow for settings relative to the 3-stage charging parameters. The elements may be lightly tickled on and off, or connected for several hours as conditions vary. LPG supplements as needed. This has worked really well for us.
Sorry to be so long-winded, ~ks