Most of the smaller commercial turbines from say Home Depot have a 1'+ gap between the blades and pole, and the blades themselves are really strong. I've seen these small guys screeming in a decent wind with virtually no flex in the blades. They had plenty of room from the pole. Then again they were carbon composite construction with some companies
Most of the Hawts based on scoraigs guidance have a furling system with the blades offset from the pole, so even if the wind got out of control the offset distance had perfect clearance to keep them clear of impact.
Tilting the rotor is also a fine choice, very minimal degradation of power from straight line wind and adequate clearance to boot. My guess for that solution is no more than a 9 degree tilt.
In any case the meat and potatoes comes down to how flexible the blades are in my opinion. Too much flex will lead to impact.
Honestly, if my blades didn't have at least 8" of play room I'd adjust it, but I also don't have experience with large 20' blades which may easily see over 2' of play...
For testing sake though you could make a rough blade and bend it till it breaks. This will give you hard evidence of how much clearance you need to compensate for. Each material has different properties and I'm no expert.
There's likely a better way out there so keep trying.