Hello Eamonn,
You sound a bit daunted, and I agree this is delicate. Requiring 100 grams (nearly 1/4 pound) near the tip of two blades is a very large correction. I've been confronted with much less imbalance in my past experience, and found that objectionable. The corresponding weight near the hub, of course, would be enormous - 100g * radius of tip / radius of hub = A REALLY BIG MASS. In your case, I would seriously investigate returning or exchanging the blades you have for a more closely matched set from Exmork.
Putting weights near the tips of blades is troublesome. If you lose one the consequences can be disastrous. When spinning, the centrifugal force on the weight will be tremendous. Adding the weight to the exterior of the blade also introduces bumps that wreck the aerodynamics, also a problem for various reasons. Attempting to make it smooth can help, but without some means built into the tip of the blade, you're cutting and drilling the blade yourself. If Exmork didn't provide any balance weight attachments near the tip, you need to be very careful if you're going to add one. If as you say, you can put one on either side, that is okay from a dynamic stability point of view, but I'd rather consider all other options first.
I e-mailed you a spreadsheet about shaving down selective areas of a wooden rotor blade to make it balance with the others, but that won't get you very far with your fiberglass blades. Sorry to get that mixed up. However, it gets me thinking in a certain direction and I hope this doesn't sound too crazy.
Instead of adding weight to the lighter blades, how can you remove weight from the heavy one? What I think you could do now is find the center of gravity of each blade by resting it on a tube or piece of angle iron until it's balanced. The point where the blade touches is its center of gravity. Do this for all three and each will have different c.g.'s, I expect. Next weigh each blade as carefully as you can - to the nearest 0.1 pound (0.05 kg). Post the weights here, and feet them into pages 2 and 3 of the spreadsheet I sent to you.
The spreadsheet isn't "automatic", but by adjusting the numbers, you can find the weight changes that will fix the problem. Sheet 2's fix is to add weight on a hub bolt. Sheet 3's fix helps you find the amount of weight that should be removed from the heavy blades. In my case, one blade was obviously lighter, one was heavy with excess weight near the tip, and the third was heavy, but its excess weight was near the root. From this interesting result, I was able to shave from the correct places and balance them up.
So maybe you have a chance, if you do this check, to find that you could REMOVE weight from the root of your heaviest blade (maybe). If it's possible and you get a better balance as a result, then you've got at least a partial solution. Of course, I haven't seen the Exmork blade so maybe cutting out material from the root would be stupid or impossible. It worked on my wood blade with no problem so that's the only reason I suggest it.
Well, I've had a really long day and I'm getting bleary-eyed. Third baby horse born this morning, before dawn, of course. At least this experienced mare didn't need much help.
I hope this made some sense, but don't be afraid to get me to repeat or tell more because I feel like I'm cutting the explanation short. Going to bed now. 'Til later.